说起刘敏涛，大家可能不太耳熟，但提到她在《琅琊榜》中扮演的心思玲珑的静妃娘娘角色，应该是无人不知无人不晓。30岁结婚，37岁离婚，40岁爆红，做了7年豪门主妇的刘敏涛在离婚后赢来了属于她的高光时刻。
Liu Mintao is well known for her role as "Princess Jing" in the “Nirvana in Fire”. She married at 30, divorced at 37, and became popular at 40. After seven years as a housewife, she won her highlight moment after divorce.
刘敏涛在节目中透露，有一次，前夫带她去日本清水寺旅游，她很想吃一根抹茶冰激凌，但是没有吃到。过后，她轻描淡写地解释为：“因为我身无分文”。
Liu Mintao revealed in the program that she once wanted to eat a matcha ice cream when her ex-husband took her to Japan's Shimizu temple for a tour.
后来她努力工作，提升自己，专门跑到日本，吃到了那根心心念念的抹茶冰激凌，她说：“那是自由的味道”。
Later, she worked hard to improve herself and ate the matcha ice cream. She said, "that's the taste of freedom."
哪怕是明星，哪怕嫁入豪门，不独立，也有属于自己的不堪回首的一地鸡毛。
Even the stars who marry into the big family, if they are not independent, they also have their own trivia.
这不是说当家庭主妇不好，而是提醒一下，女人，哪怕是做家庭主妇，也一定有自己的独立的底气，无论是精神上还是经济上，各方面的独立，是永不过时的自我保护。
Housewives also must be independent.
家庭主妇是一种高危职业
家庭主妇是一种高危职业
欧洲生命社会协会曾经针对30岁至60岁的女性做过一个调查。
The European Society for life has conducted a survey of women between the ages of 30 and 60.
最后得出结论：家庭主妇是世界上最危险的职业。
The conclusion is that housewife is the most dangerous occupation in the world.
劳神费力但是不讨好；
在经济上没有自主权；
与社会脱节，跟不上时代步伐；
容易变成唠叨的“怨妇”；
在丈夫眼里无足轻重......
Laborious but not pleasing;
No economic autonomy;
Out of touch with society;
It is easy to become a "complained wife";
Ignored by her husband......
如果说，这世上有一种职业，全年无休，每天24小时待命，没有年终奖，甚至没有工资，还备受歧视，随时面临着各种风险……
If there is an occupation in the world, which has no wage and is discriminated against, it is faced with various risks at any time.
那一定是——全职家庭主妇了。
That must be a full-time housewife.
女性如何收获高质量的幸福
女性如何收获高质量的幸福
1、宠爱自己
Zhou Fan, a psychologist, said: many middle-aged women who fail in marriage have a common problem. They feel that giving is being loved, and fall into a strange circle.
只有把那些压抑在你意识深处的自我怀疑和自我否定去掉，拿回更多的力量感，不必为了取悦别人而做传统意义上的“贤妻良母”，身体和自由都属于你。你自己，比全世界任何人，都值得你的关注和爱护。
Only get rid of the self doubt and self negation that are repressed in your deep consciousness, and get back more sense of power. You don't have to be a "good wife and good mother" in the traditional sense in order to please others.
就像于文红会长所提到的，保持一张脸的外在形象，同时兼修内在的才华，保持好的心态。不要怨天尤人，没有条件想办法创造条件也要宠爱自己。你外在的美丽，内在的绽放，身体的健康，生命会更加的自由。
As president Yu Wenhong mentioned, we should keep the external image of a face, cultivate internal talents and keep a good attitude. Don't complain about the nature, even if no condition, you also should pamper yourself.
2、值得感与配得感
于会长身上有一个优点值得我们所有中国女性学习，那就是值得感和配得感。会长的值得感和配得感是超强的。她会认为全世界如果只有一个宝贝，那就一定是她自己。而我们会怎么认为？全世界就这一个，那肯定不是我的。当我们这么想的时候，都不用去努力争取，光是有这一个信念，我们就已经输给人家。正因为这份值得感和配得感，吸引了身边所有的一切的美好的事物的发生。
The sense of worth of president Yu is super strong, which is worth learning from all Chinese women. Sense of worth attract all the good things around.
所以我们跟很多美好的事物擦肩而过的原因是因为我们认为自己不配拥有与得到。所以我们要记住，我们值得拥有这世间所有的美好，值得拥有全世界最美好的人事物，值得被爱。所以想要拥有美好，首先要有一颗我值得、我配得和我要有的这颗心，然后宇宙才能给你。
So if you want to have beautiful people and things , you need have sense of worth.
3、培养包含赚钱能力的才华
大多数的家庭矛盾，来源于经济。贫贱夫妻百事哀，所以，物质基础真的很重要。无论是男方还是女方，谁经济上占有绝对主导优势，那么在家里就占有主动权。
Most family conflicts come from the economy. Poor couples are sad about everything, so the material basis is really important.
所以想要在家里变得重要，就要有属于自己的经济能力。
So you need to be independent in economy.
金钱某种意义上是一种神奇的力量，利用好的话，会把生活打造的非常好。能给人带来很多很多的方便，温暖和生活上的便利。所以金钱是很重要的。通过自己的双手，合法合理的手段获得金钱是一个女人重要的才华。我们要培养包含赚钱能力的才华。
Money is very important. It is a woman's important talent to get money by her own hands and legal and reasonable means.
4、施恩与付出
自古以来，我们在形容一对两性关系融洽的时候，会用“恩爱”一词。恩爱，恩爱，恩是施恩的恩，恩情的恩，施恩于你，恩情是相互往来的。所以，在两性关系中，你要对他形成帮助。
Since ancient times, when we describe a harmonious relationship between two sexes, we use the word "love". Kindness is mutual. So, in a relationship, you need to help him.
在于会长和罗兰多的爱情中，除了正当好的感情，他们还用纯粹的付出来回报彼此，打动彼此。比如，罗兰多包了游艇庆祝会长生日，却在教于会长的大宝跳跳板发生意外的一瞬间宁可自己受伤也保护好大宝。又比如，于会长帮助罗兰多的家人安排工作，帮罗兰多的父母解决了后顾之忧。
In the love between president Yu and Rolando, in addition to their good feelings, they also pay for each other and move each other.
罗兰多的姐姐是这么评价于会长的“特蕾莎来到我们家，就好像给我们平淡的生活，普通的生活，灰暗的生活，像神一样给了一束光。” 那是一个不懂言辞又很懂得报恩的人，她是这么评价的，她的评价是他们家里人最真实的感受。
"Teresa came to our family, just like she gave us a light like a God for our plain life, ordinary life, gray life," said Rolando's sister.
你对他的家人好，比对他好，简直就是四两拨千斤，效果好的多的多。这也是两性关系融洽的一个关键点。
You are good to his family, better than him. It will have a better effect and is also a key point for a harmonious relationship.
好的两性关系，能帮助人们把爱情变得更好。愿我们不断潜心修行，拥抱高质量的幸福。
Good relationships can help people make love better. May we continuous practice and embrace high-quality happiness.
